47 Wedding Ideas for Gay and Lesbian Couples
From cake toppers to ceremony ideas, here are 47 ways to make your own traditions and plan a wedding that embraces your uniqueness.
For same-sex couples, it can be stressful trying to model your wedding day off traditional ceremonies. Simply finding things can be tough: LGBT-friendly vendors, same-sex cake toppers, same-sex gift sets. The list goes on.
Planning the Ceremony
Many same-sex couples are redefining wedding ceremonies and tailoring traditions to suit them. From walking each other down the aisle to planning outfits for bridesmaids and brides-men or groomsmen and grooms-women, here are some ideas for the ceremony.
Husbands Brett and Mike had a traditional chapel ceremony in the Smoky Mountains at Chapel at the Park in Gatlinburg, Tennessee. If you're looking for an LGBT-friendly vendor, especially a religious venue, look for the Human Rights Campaign's blue and yellow equal sign logo on the vendor website. Some sites display a rainbow flag. That's a great way to know before you call when booking.
Walk With Family Down the Aisle
The traditional dad-walks-bride-down-the-aisle doesn't work for everyone. You don't have to have anyone walk you. Or give you away. You could walk yourself. Or you could ask a family member or friend to walk you down and give you away, too. And if you want, a little bit of both is OK, too. Before grooms John and John Henry danced down the aisle together, they had their moms walk them down halfway. It gave them a special moment to share together before the big ceremony.
Finding a Cake Topper
A quick trip to a big box store usually isn't fruitful for same-sex cake toppers. Check out online stores for DIYers making handmade and custom-designed toppers. Here are 10 of our favorites.
Clay People Cake Toppers
Make clay versions of you and your spouse. You could copy your exact wedding outfits or show different parts of your personalities and hobbies. The material, Fimo (a type of polymer), is hardy and will last for years after.
"Best Day Ever" Banner
You don't have to have people cake toppers. Use a phrase that sums up the whole day or even a quote about love that you and your spouse like. Tiny banners with twine are a great choice for rustic weddings.
Gifts for Same-Sex Couples
If you get invited to a same-sex wedding, finding a gift or even a card can be tough. There are so many online shops offering custom-made gifts for gay and lesbian couples. Here are some of our favorites, from matching pillowcases to first Christmas ornaments.
We just love the adorable hedgehog grooms (in top hats!) on this wedding card from Compatible Cards. The London-based company designs greeting cards exclusively for LGBT couples and was funded by the Prince's Trust charity. And, yes, they have hedgehog brides, too.
Romantic Mug Set
There are Mr. and Mrs. sets for just about anything in big box stores but it can be hard to find sets for same-sex couples. You can find custom, handmade mug sets from online makers like Ink Letter Love.
These "missing piece" bracelets from Jane R Jewelry are a great shower or bachelor/bachelorette party gift. The beads remind the couple that their better half is always with them.
Parent Mug Set
Many same-sex couples who married before the 2015 Supreme Court ruling on marriage equality are now throwing renewal parties to honor their marriage and make it legal. For these couples, gift something that celebrates their history and family. We love these ceramic, same-sex parent mug sets from Sam's Muddy Mom Pottery.
Give the new couple a fun set of matching pillowcases to celebrate their union. Send to their honeymoon hotel ahead of time for a surprise when they walk into the room! We love these sets from Wystar Wedding Shop.
Gifts That Give Back
Honor a couple's bravery and strength by gifting an item that benefits an LGBT charity. One Hope Wine carries a sparkling wine (in a rainbow glitter bottle!) that benefits The Trevor Project, a group focused on suicide prevention for LGBT youth. Four bottles fund one hour of counseling services.
Gifts for the Kids, Too
Not having equal marriage rights until last year didn't stop LGBT couples from having families. If you're invited to a marriage renewal party for same-sex couples making their union legal, bring an extra gift for the kids. It's an important celebration for them, too. We love these mom and dad squared tees from Imagine Mint.
Always remember: It's your day. There are no rules and expectations. Only love.