12 Things Every Maid of Honor Should Know
With great power comes great responsibility.
There are few things more special than being asked to be someone's maid of honor. Out of all of the people in her life, the bride-to-be chose you to stand by her side on her wedding day! From one MOH to another, here are a few helpful hints that will help you stay sane and ensure the bride's big day is memorable, stress-free and fun.
Throw a Great Bachelorette Party
Coordinating the bachelorette party is one of the MOH's most pivotal roles. That being said, when throwing this party, make sure it's something the bride actually wants to do and doesn't feel like she has to do.
For example, my sister is as fun as they come, but she doesn't really like going out and dancing. She has, however, always loved horses — so we found an amazing three-day horse event within driving distance and bought tickets. We rented a house on Airbnb and, instead of the traditional party night, ordered pizza and had a dance party in our PJs. She loved it. The moral of the story? Know your bride and plan an evening you know she'd be excited about.
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Create an Online Hub for the Bridal Party
Make a Google Doc or create a Facebook group for the bridal party and include the bride. If bridesmaids are choosing their own dresses, this doc will act as a hub where the bride can see everyone's choices and veto/approve. You can also add important dates, the wedding timeline and much more. Cohesiveness on the big day is important — help facilitate this so your best gal has one less thing to worry about.
Never Miss an Event, EVER
Whether it be the millionth dress fitting, a shower, the cake tasting or helping her register, get there on time and show up when asked. It's hard to ask for help, so if the bride takes the time to ask, it means she really does need your advice, reassurance or opinion. Put a smile on and do it. All of it.
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Read the wedding timeline, listen to voicemails and reply to any and all texts from the bride leading up to the big day. Keeping her in the know and reassuring her that you got her message and will be there is all she wants. The power of the reply is amazing!
Give Your Support
Even though it's her big day, a bride feels the need to make sure everyone is okay with the plans she's made. Little tip: Be ok with anything she wants you to do and let her know you're pumped to get your nails done, go to that pole dancing class or eat your weight in brunch and mimosas.
Be the Point Person
Introduce yourself to everyone and make yourself available. Have a conversation with the wedding planer, photographer, florist and even the hotel concierge. Give everyone your number so you can be a resource or field questions.
On the big day, snag her phone. It's amazing how many people will call the bride the day of the wedding asking for directions, start times, etc. Take over this responsibility so that the she can get ready in peace. Just don't forget to give it back to her at the end of the day!
Know Your Look
This tip was given to me by a hairstylist: Many people show up to an appointment with inspiration pictures of just the back of a hairstyle. To save time and make it easier on the stylist, bring pics of the front, back and sides of the style you want. Find a celebrity with similar hair color and texture as yours and search through images of their hairstyles. Remember, the stylist should be free to spend the most time on the bride.
Bring Getting-Ready Music
Doing hair and makeup to the tune of the morning weather at 8 a.m. is no fun. Bring speakers and phone chargers to keep the party going until you walk out the door.
Pack a Wedding Day Survival Kit
Always be prepared. On the big day, it's easy to forget some of the most basic tasks like brushing your teeth or shaving your legs — seriously. See the chart below for things every MOH should have on-hand the day of.
Make Sure the Newlyweds Eat
Once the reception starts, help make sure the happy couple gets food and drinks. Of everyone at the wedding, these two should never stand in line at the mashed potato bar. They will be so excited to walk around and talk to everyone, they may forget to eat, and having you in their corner to snag a bite for them can make all the difference between a happy bride and a hangry bride.
Nail Down After-Wedding Plans
Be in charge of collecting both getaway bags and coordinate who is taking home the wedding dress. When their ride is ready, go ahead and load the bags so send-off is seamless.
Have fun during this day! Whether it be a family member or a friend, this day will only happen once. Be present in the moment and spend as much time with them as you can. Laugh at the little things and know that ultimately there will be little hiccoughs throughout the day. At the end of the night as the couple hops in the car, know that you helped create such a memorable day for two incredibly special people in your life.