Couples Who Honored Their Heritage

Meet six real-life couples who chose to honor their cultural heritage in their wedding ceremony. Get useful tips for honoring your unique cultural traditions on your big day.

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Hide CaptionShow CaptionThe Couple: Peihsien (Patty) Tsai & David C. Luxenberg; The Location: Washington Township, New Jersey

All About

Patty's Story:
"Dave and I had many cultural differences to sort through — he's Jewish, I'm Christian Chinese & my parents are Buddhist. And did I mention the language barrier? In the initial planning stages, my husband and I sat down with our parents to discuss traditions, both religious and cultural, that were especially meaningful and important. Both sides of the family were very involved in the planning process. We were married under a simple Chupah held-up by members of Dave's family. The Rabbi worked closely worked with us to provide a ceremony that was spiritual and inclusive of both sides."


Her Tips:

The more the merrier: "Friends and family added another level of depth and meaning to our wedding. In addition to the usual bridesmaids and groomsmen, we had friends acting as greeters to help guests sign-in, Dave's friend played an electric violin, my friend sang our wedding song, my brother designed the photo montage, a close family friend was the DJ and another was the bilingual MC to help translate. To this day, Dave and I feel incredibly blessed to have all of these wonderful people in our lives!"

Delicate details add to the overall theme: "In retrospect, the details added to the theme of diversity. The bridesmaids wore the traditional Chinese Qi Pao, but each selected her own fabric and color. Asiatic lilies and orchids worked double-duty, they added to the Asian theme & unified the bridesmaids. Guests signed in on an embroidered red silk cloth & offered a fortune cookie. The music was coordinated prior to the wedding as well, the play list had a bit of everything — my Dad spent hours selecting music that appealed to all ages and cultures. The food was amazing and diverse. During cocktail hour, we had a sushi bar, my favorite; little hotdogs, my husband's fave, and an endless parade of food to appeal to even the most picky of palettes. It was absolutely delicious!

Let it go & let it flow: Balancing sanity and wedding planning was very tricky and I wasn't always very good at it. But on the day of the wedding, it was time to let it go and let it flow. We tried to toast from table to table, a Chinese tradition, but Dave tore his ACL just before the wedding & his knee was not having it. Later in the ceremony, my parents were somehow lifted up in the chair during the hora. We had great fun and on that day, we were on top of the world!"

"The wedding was a mish-mash of everything that identified who Dave and I were as individuals; and who we are now, as a couple."